Food For Thought, Small Business, Starting An Online Business, Work from home April 30th. 2012, 5:21pm
Sharing The Internet Business Adventure With Your Spouse
There are almost as many reasons why people decide to launch their own online businesses as there are businesses online. Some individuals are pursuing a passion, some are seeking to break out of a dull routine, some are looking for increased income while others are hoping to replace the income they lost when they were “downsized.”
Whatever the reason for beginning, each journey is an adventure.
Like all great adventurers, the online entrepreneur faces moments of peril and despair. Meeting the challenges of building your own business requires determination, discipline, flexibility and the vision to keep your goal in mind when distractions multiply and the road is rocky. Building the foundation for a successful business often requires investing long hours of highly focused work before the results are visible.
These early stages of building a business can, if not planned for properly, take a serious toll on relationships.
If you were taking your spouse on an adventurous trip through an uncharted wilderness, you would probably take the time to let that loved one know where you planned to go and how you planned to get there. Odds are good that you’d show him or her the tools and supplies you have acquired for the trip and you’d make an effort to ease any concerns they may have.
In this day and age, it is surprising how many people neglect to take the same measures when starting a business.
Failure to communicate causes an enormous amount of stress for a number of spouses when the person they married is no longer walking the seemingly safe, stable path of an 8-hour a day, five-days a week job. Suddenly, it seems, they have to deal with long stretches of time when their spouse is locked away doing who knows what and they become further frustrated when their loved one seems to be lost in thought even on the rare moments that they have together. To some, it feels like they have lost their partner to a lover called “the business.”
While there is little doubt that you will need to do a great deal of work getting your business up and running, it essential to point out that shutting your significant other out of the process can be a major mistake. I will concede that some spouses don’t want to know all the details about how you are building your dream but most need to know that you care enough to share your vision and you value their input. You might even discover that they have insights that you have never considered. Best of all, if you engage the support or even enthusiasm of the one you love, that emotional strength can help fortify your resolve during moments of self-doubt.
Your ability to be open and honest with your spouse can be an essential factor on whether business and your relationship survive. Many fledgling entrepreneurs have had their confidence shattered by spouses who resist their business building efforts. It is virtually impossible to be efficient and effective in the business world without confidence in your abilities. After all, how can you get others to believe in you if you no longer believe in yourself?
In certain cases, professional counseling is advised to help both sides bring to light and resolve the issues that are hindering the marriage and the potential for business growth. Usually, it all comes down to seeing, understanding and appreciating the aspirations and fears that both people are experiencing regarding the business venture. Although the entrepreneur may have a good grasp of the sacrifices she or he is making to establish a better life for the couple, they may have no concept of the sacrifices being made by their spouse toward the same cause. Sometimes, every couple needs a strong reminder that they are both on the same team.
As mentioned in the beginning, building a business is an adventure. You must share the experiences of the journey with your spouse because, whether you planned it or not, both of you are going to be on the trip together.
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